Inspirational Messages For Your Heart and Soul
I have talked about the relationship with ourselves as being the most important but our single most important need is closeness and connection. We are all seeking connection. We strive for connection and closeness. We want to belong to a group, to be accepted. When there is no connection, we feel lonely.
This loneliness goes back to our childhood. Our childhood forms the patterns of our adult behaviours. When we did not have the approval of our parents/primary caregivers and were shamed by them, we developed emotional wounds. These are fragmented parts of ourselves that we learned to hate because we did not want to upset our parents. So we try to bury them, shove them down to stop them re-appearing but they do not go away.
If you lived in a household where your parents punished you for crying, expressing joy or anger, you learned to be invisible and quiet yet hyper vigilant. Fear is used by dysfunctional parents to control and manipulate their children. So to gain their approval, children will distance themselves from those parts of their personality that they in turn learn to hate. As you grow into an adult body, you unconsciously learn to internalise the methods of punishment that your parents used against you. Some self-medicate to avoid their pain others seek healing.
In order to heal from your emotional wounds is to do the opposite of what you have been taught. Rather than avoid your pain, you have to go towards it. To connect with the aspects of your fragmented self you have suppressed, rejected and denied. You get closer to that part of you that you hate about yourself. This does take courage, but the aspects of you that you hate about yourself are seeking closeness, connection and they want to feel they belong to you. You want to feel connected to yourself so that you can connect to others. This is how you begin the process of self-acceptance.
Energy Healer and Intuitive Counsellor
Working with the Angelic Realm, Ascended Masters and Star Beings.
South Manchester, UK