We formed an unconscious definition of love by watching how our parents / primary caregivers behaved.  Then we unconsciously seek out those partners with the same characteristics that our parents exhibited.  But we also unconsciously exhibit those same behaviours while trying consciously to seek out partners, friendships and careers which offer to us what we felt was missing in our childhood. 
 
People seek relationships to finish their childhood.  Yet the very things that you deny about your childhood: your unhealed emotional wounds, will be attracted in your soulmate, friendships and wider social circles.  These emotional wounds which are fragmented aspects of your personality, will show up to remind you that they deserve your attention to be listened to and felt.  They are not showing up to harm you, they are calling for your unconditional attention and acceptance. 
 
My job is help you create a safe space within which to listen to those parts of you that you have suppressed, rejected and denied about yourself.  What you carry will weigh you down in your life.  Isn’t it time you put your bags down, opened them up to look at what has been calling you.  You might find the opposite of what you thought was chasing you.  You might actually find some relief in your life.

Healing your inner child fragments is the gateway to union with your Higher Self / Soul.  Your inner child is seeking union with you so that you can become whole.
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In our search for completion, we strive to find friendships, romantic partners or jobs that will fill the void from our childhood.  If you felt unsafe as a child growing up with your parents/guardians, you will unconsciously seek relationships that are unsafe.  It seems ironic, but patterns of living we grew up with become unconscious patterns we use to choose our friendships, romantic partners and careers.
 
If your childhood was one where you were constantly shouted at by your parents, you will unconsciously form relationships that frequently involve that type of communication where the other does not feel heard.  Patterns of behaviour that you created to survive within an emotionally, mentally and physically abusive family environment become unconscious.  They become the norm and so become unconscious patterns of relating to other humans.

​When you encounter people who trigger emotional reactions within you, they are uncovering responses to situations you created for yourself in childhood.  My job is to help you unpick them:  identify the triggers and the responses and when they first began.  When you understand the reasons for your responses, you can learn to understand your defences with compassion and learn a new way of being with yourself.
 
You can learn to love yourself by nurturing those parts of you that felt injured, abandoned and rejected as a child.

"When  you say or do anything to please, get, keep, influence, or control anyone or anything,
fear is the cause and pain is the result."  Byrom Katie

"We can't expect other people to give us what we find impossible to give ourselves. So we start with ourselves. We can't expect the world to live it when we aren't."  Byron Katie